Victoria

Shalet

Humanistic Psychotherapist MBACP (Accred)
& Certified Relational Life Therapist

working with Adult Individuals and Couples

in Chiswick, West London

The space I take in the world externally is a mirror of the space in me internally.

Only by risking to explore those interiors can I realise my full potential.

Humanistic Psychotherapy and Relational Life Therapy

for Adults and Couples

"Let your curiosity be greater than your fear" - Pema Chödrön

What is therapy?

Therapy is about learning to be in charge of your life; it is a conversation within a relationship where you can be witnessed, heard and challenged so you can move towards a more fulfilling future.

Working as a humanistic psychotherapist and relational life practitioner means that I see you as an individual: someone who is made up of a body, emotions, thoughts, sensations and perceptions with your own unique experience of life, one that only you know.

I believe we are all wired for connection—and that we each have the capacity to live more deeply relational, fulfilling lives. I see the therapeutic relationship as a safe and confidential space that can support and guide us toward that potential. My relationship with you is particularly important to the work we do and influences the success of the therapy.

Humanistic therapy is based in humanistic psychology that is primarily client-focused. It works on the belief that the relationship between client and therapist is of paramount importance to the work. My practice is informed by the work of Gestalt, Transactional Analysis and Formative Psychology. I am influenced by the work of Stanley Keleman, Fritz Perls, Terry Real, Dr Gabor Maté, Esther Perel and Deb Dana.

Relational Life Therapy is the work of Terry Real and teaches couples how to be more relational and ultimately more cherishing in their relationships by working through the dynamics that have interrupted that possibility until now. It can be a challenging and yet incredibly effective way of working.

What is Therapy?

How I work

"It is only when compassion is present that people will allow themselves to see the truth.

Where there is no compassion there is no trust."

A. H. Almaas

I am an accredited humanistic Psychotherapist which means that therapy takes form in a conversation. I see us as equals and work to support you on your exploration to find a more satisfying way of being.

Although I originally trained in humanistic psychotherapy, my work with individuals and couples is now primarily informed by Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy (RLT). This powerful, integrative approach helps partners navigate conflict, build accountability, improve communication, and cultivate greater intimacy. The goal is to foster relationships that are more connected, conscious, and fulfilling.

Relationships inevitably move through cycles of harmony, rupture, and repair. Many of us were never shown how to navigate these cycles in a relational way, which can leave us stuck in unhelpful patterns that prevent deeper connection. RLT offers a compassionate yet direct lens through which we can examine ourselves, challenge old patterns, and learn new ways of relating—both to our partners and to ourselves.

My work integrates talking therapy with elements of Gestalt, formative experiments, and RLT skills, creating an experiential and collaborative process. Together, we explore what’s not working, what’s possible, and how to move toward more satisfying ways of being in relationship.

I work both one-to-one with adult individuals and couples of all ages, races, cultures, religious backgrounds and sexual orientation in a safe and confidential space.

If after our initial meeting we decide to work together, we would meet once a week on the same day and at the same time, for as long as the work continues to be effective and beneficial to you. I offer either brief (6-10 sessions) or open-ended therapy where we will review the process periodically to ensure you are getting the most from our time together.

When the time comes to end our work it is important to make sure we have a proper ending, this may be over the course of two sessions but I would always aim that we have at least one so that we can review and complete all that has gone before in order to say goodbye in a satisfying way.

My rates

Please enquire about fees.

Areas I work with:

Anger
Anxiety
Bereavement and Loss
Childhood issues
Childhood sexual, physical or emotional abuse
Communication
Couples Counselling
Depression
Family issues
Grief
Identity
Parenting/step-parenting
Performance pressure
Reclaiming interior space after change or loss
Relationship issues
Self-esteem
Shock
Stress and Overwhelm
Suicidal feelings
Transitions and change
Trauma
Work/life balance

I believe we are all wired for connection—and that we each have the capacity to live more deeply relational, satisfying lives. I see the therapeutic relationship as a safe and confidential space that can support and guide us toward that potential. Although I originally trained in humanistic psychotherapy, my work with individuals and couples is now primarily informed by Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy (RLT). This powerful, integrative approach helps partners navigate conflict, build accountability, improve communication, and cultivate greater intimacy. The goal is to foster relationships that are more connected, conscious, and fulfilling. Relationships inevitably move through cycles of harmony, rupture, and repair. Many of us were never shown how to navigate these cycles in a relational way, which can leave us stuck in unhelpful patterns that prevent deeper connection. RLT offers a compassionate yet direct lens through which we can examine ourselves, challenge old patterns, and learn new ways of relating—both to our partners and to ourselves. My work integrates talking therapy with elements of Gestalt, formative experiments, and RLT skills, creating an experiential and collaborative process. Together, we explore what’s not working, what’s possible, and how to move toward more satisfying ways of being in relationship.